On Adopting a Rescue Dane

On Adopting a Rescue Dane

Here is a narrative from a recent adopter (thank you Mark!) on his experience with a rescue Great Dane.  We think it may offer some help/support/comfort to potential adopters!

“My wife and I love Great Danes. No…I mean REALLY, REALLY love Danes. When we got married, the choice was kids or Danes first. We chose Danes. We’re now on our fifth Dane. (The kids are now grown and out of the house. ) The only downside I can think of to the breed is that they don’t live long enough. But you get twice the love in weight…so it makes up for it.

We recently rescued a 19 month old Great Dane, to give our almost three year old male Harlequin, Gideon, a friend. With both the kids now out of the house, we were ready. Or so we thought.

We found Levi (formerly Bently) online at Great Dane Rescue of Northern California. He’s a beautiful Merle / Mantle, with bright blue eyes. We were drawn to him from the start. We brought Gideon for a visit at the kennel where Levi was temporarily housed and fell in love. Gideon too. They played together well, if a bit rough. And Levi seemed desperate to be loved. He had spent many months without attention in someone’s backyard. He had been so neglected, he didn’t know his name. He needed a family to love. He literally wrapped his body around our legs to get closer to us. We couldn’t resist. We decided to come back the next day and bring him home.

We’ve never rescued a full grown dog before. We’ve always had puppies. And we never even gave a moment’s thought to how different this would be than that. You see, just like people, dogs come with a history. And with dogs, you really never know the real history. That means they come with all kids of hidden personality traits, some good, and some not so good.

We brought Levi home, introduced him to Gideon and all seemed well. They were a bit wild together but seemed to get along famously. They played all day, and slept together that night. All was well. Or so we thought. Levi fit right into our routine and Gideon was thrilled.

The next day started with more “routine.” We headed out for a long hike with the dogs. We took them to the trailhead, leashed them up, and started out. Everything was fine, until we came across our first unknown dog on the trail. Levi became extremely aggressive. He was almost impossible to control. It was a very bad scene. No one was hurt, but we were stunned, and shattered.

It seemed clear that we had adopted a “bad dog.” We talked…we cried, and we called the adoption folks and said we were returning him. We made arrangements and drove down to the kennel. When we dropped him off, he was frantically looking for us as we pulled out. We cried all the way home. We were heartbroken.

I went online to do what I should have done before bringing him home in the first place. I researched…”how to bring home an adopted dog into a home with an existing dog.” There was a wealth of information. There were many do’s and don’ts, and we had violated virtually of all them. I felt stupid. I know better. I’m a researchaholic. But in this case, my excitement overrode my common sense.

We had brought Levi home and assumed he understood everything. We assumed he was completely comfortable. We assumed he trusted us, and everything going on. We assumed that when we took him out that morning for a hike that it would be as normal for him as it was for us. We assumed we knew how he would react to new situations, new people and new dogs. You know what they say when you “assume.”

For the next couple of nights I dreamt about Levi…I saw his blue eyes, and how much he wanted to be loved. And I knew that we had done wrong…not him. We talked about it a lot. We debated back and forth. And ultimately, we did something scary…we went back and got him. And we brought him home. And we followed the advice we found online. We took our time. We went slowly. We didn’t introduce him to anyone, or take him out for a couple of weeks. We wanted him to know he was safe and secure. We wanted him to understand that he had pack leaders who would take care of him, and protect, and who he could trust. And we wanted to learn to trust him too. Trust is a two way street.

There’s a lot to it. It’s complicated to bring home a rescue. It’s not like the movies. It’s not all cuddles and cuteness. These dogs have histories. They don’t know you. They don’t trust you. And you shouldn’t trust them…immediately. That trust has to be earned; both ways. And it takes time, and patience, and commitment, and lots and lots of love.   But if you commit to it, the rewards can be incredible.

It’s been almost five months since we brought Levi home. There’s been a lot of learning. He’s had to learn our rules, and we’ve had to learn his personality and his quirks, some good and some not so good. We’ve all had to adjust. It’s been a process, and it’s continuing. It’s still a work in progress. He still has a bit of separation anxiety to work his way through. But it’s getting better every day. And overall, it’s really, really good. We love Levi…and he loves us.

Levi and Gideon are inseparable. We have two beds, but they sleep together. Gideon has been the ultimate, patient and loving big brother. We haven’t seen a jealous moment. Levi is well adjusted and goes out with us all the time. We still discover things about him (and him about us), and we’re still working out a few kinks, but we wouldn’t trade him for anything. This dog loves to be loved as much as any dog we’ve ever had. And there’s something special about looking in your dog’s eyes and knowing that you rescued him…that he really, really needed you.   All Levi wanted was to be loved; and all we ever wanted to do was love him. But it was more complicated than that when it came to reality. That’s an important lesson.

So here’s my brief advice for those wanting to adopt a Great Dane.

  1. Do it. The returns are incredible. They are the best breed in the world (and yes…of course I am biased). And there is something special about a rescue.
  2. Don’t do it without thinking it through and doing your homework. There is a right way and a wrong way to bring home a rescue dog. It is not the same as bringing home a puppy, and there will always be surprises. Be prepared to put in the time researching and preparing, and be prepared to put in the time when you bring them home. You must commit. And if you don’t have the time or the energy or the flexibility for that, don’t do it.
  3. Be patient and take it slowly. It’s all new for your new dog. You may love them immediately, but they don’t know or trust you when you bring them home.
  4. Be careful and cautious. Big dogs may seem cuddly, but they can be dangerous too. They can do damage to you and your stuff. I’m not saying that to scare you…just telling you to be very cautious. Because you don’t want a mistake that can cause an incident that ruins an otherwise good adoption (like we almost did).
  5. Let your new dog adjust slowly. Don’t take them out in public for at least a couple of weeks. Limit outside visitors for awhile too. Your dog needs to get to know you, and the pack at home, before you introduce other people. Take the time so that they trust you to protect them, and they know you are in charge. You must be a calm, assertive pack leader. Your new dog needs that from you.
  6. Commit. Don’t give up. These dogs have already had to deal with the instability of losing their family home. Maybe more than once. Don’t be part of their history. Be part of their future.

I’m sure there’s a lot more. Someone should write a book. And we’re no experts, so it’s not us. But we have been through it, once.   And we made mistakes. Thank God we decided to give it a second try.

Remember, we thought we had adopted a “bad dog.” But he wasn’t a bad dog, we were bad adopters. But only because we didn’t know. We hadn’t done our homework. So don’t let me scare you off. I’m encouraging you to do it…but do your homework, be prepared and be committed. If you do, you won’t be sorry.

How do I know? Just look into Levi’s eyes…like we get to do every day. If you look close, you’ll see love…just like you’ll see in the eyes of every Great Dane waiting to find his or her forever home”

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